Monday, June 22, 2015

We Have A Plan

Last week Kyle had a very important appointment in San Antonio. He met with a male fertility specialist and he came out of that appointment with some amazing information. The doctor was awesome and listened to everything and didn't brush anything off.

 He had bloodwork for genetic testing as well as a few other examinations done. One of the main things we found out is that it is very possible that he has a chromosomal abnormality called Y Chromosome Microdeletion. Based on information from my genetic testing and what his doctor thinks, all of the pregnancies and miscarriages that we have had would have resulted in little boys. That was hard to hear again, since I had been told that at my genetics appointment. If he does have this abnormality (which we will find out for certain in 4 weeks) we will likely only carry girls to term. 

There are a few other things that we can do to help our chances of conceiving, Kyle can be put on clomid (yes the same stuff women take), but the upside for him taking it is that he can take it for the rest of his life without it causing a problem for him. For women, they can only take it so many times in their lifetime before it weakens their reproductive organs.

I am sure a lot of you are thinking that this information is TMI but to be honest this information should be out in the open. Kyle and I were talking about it last night, our journey and our story can potentially help others who are afraid to ask questions and who are afraid to ask for testing to be done. Kyle is finally to the point where is okay talking about this freely and he should be, I'm happy that he is comfortable enough in his own skin to talk about it. It's a real thing that more people than you think are experiencing.

While this news to some would be devastating, we are actually hopeful. We are happy that we now have a direction to go. We have options to try before moving onto IVF (If we do end up going with IVF doctors can test for genetic abnormalities). All we have ever wanted was doctors to listen to us and do more testing. So the plan is to wait and see what the genetics test say and then move onto Clomid for Kyle.

We are so relieved to have a plan finally after 6 years and a way to move forward for the time being. I am excited and hopeful to see what the future hold!


47 comments:

  1. I hope this help to move you forward. I really believe you two would be wonderful parents and little girls are so great. Hopefully you learn some answers soon. :)

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  2. I am so happy you shared this. I think sometimes the more we talk about things, the easier they are to digest and help us heal. You have such a great attitude and I know you and Kyle are going to be fantastic parents! XO

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  3. I'm glad you guys are finally getting some answers. That can't be easy, though, finding out about those little boys you lost. Hopefully the testing goes well!

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  4. Glad to know you are finding answers and a plan!!

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    1. Thank you, it feels good to have a direction. :)

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  5. You're positivity is amazing, you and Kyle will be fabulous parents! :)

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  6. I'm sorry you are going through this but your strength and willingness to share is just amazing! I hope things work out sooner than later for you and Kyle. I'll be praying for you guys!

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  7. It's so good that you're staying positive! Unfortunately, I don't handle things like that very well. I'm already freaking out that we're not pregnant yet and we've only been trying for about 8 months now. Plus I want two boys so that probably would have left me feeling devastated. Stay positive and you know I wish you both the best! :)

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    1. Thank you, Keating! It means a lot.

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  8. I hope you can get some more definite answers with the results in a few weeks. I'm so happy that y'all are still hopeful!

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  9. Wow - so glad you're getting some answers. And I think telling your story is a great thing to do. You're right, some other family may be able to learn from it.

    And I know with certainty that you and Kyle would make some gorgeous baby girls!! :)

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  10. I am so glad that you have finally gotten some answers! Yay for having a plan! Can't wait to see what the future holds for you guys!

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  11. That's wonderful that you have a plan going forward and some answers. I'm sure it was a hard thing to hear, but I'm so hopeful for your future.

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  12. What a journey, but happy to hear that it's heading in the right direction and to conceiving!! Thanks for sharing your story with us.

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  13. I'm so glad you guys got some answers and have some options!!! That will help so much. I'm very hopeful for you guys!!

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  14. So glad you guys are getting answers! Sharing your story has definitely helped me...thank you again for being there whenever I have an odd question to ask about it all! You're awesome & I know great things will come to you both 😀

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  15. Glad to hear you are getting some answers and have a plan to go forward!!

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  16. I'm so excited you all have a plan!!! Thank you for your honesty-- I'm sure it will help someone out there. It's helped me by just informing me.

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  17. So wonderful to have a plan! So many years of not knowing where to go from here must be so tough, but forward movement is so encouraging! That's awesome men can take clomid and not have the same side effects woman have- didn't know that. I agree it should be talked about more. I love how open you have been.

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  18. A plan! I can only imagine what having an actual plan and a way to move forward must fee like. You are Kyle are truly amazing, and I whole hardheartedly believe you will be incredible parents!

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  19. Yea...a plan to move forward and answers! Thanks for sharing.

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  20. I think the future holds a sweet baby girl for you then! :) You already know I'm wishing you so much luck. I think it's important too, to know exactly what you are dealing with. Guessing is way harder!

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  21. I think the future holds a sweet baby girl for you then! :) You already know I'm wishing you so much luck. I think it's important too, to know exactly what you are dealing with. Guessing is way harder!

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  22. It's always so refreshing to have a new plan, a new direction, a new sense of hope. Can I ask, what would the Clomid do for Kyle? I'm so glad that you are speaking out about your journey. I admit that outside of my blog that no one IRL knew about, I didn't share with many people what I was going through until after we had Chloe. I have heard that can be common, but I wish I would have been more open to people, if for no other reason than the support, earlier on.

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  23. I'm glad you are finally getting some answers!

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  24. I love your positive attitude! I can't wait to see how this new information will help you become parents. I know you and Kyle will make the best parents ever. :) estherdavison@gmail.com

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  25. I am so happy things are moving in the right direction! Having doctors be on your side is so important! I'm looking forward to hearing more about where this journey takes you. So excited for you both! :)

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  26. Oh sweet girl, I'm so sorry you're going through this but I'm so thankful you're getting answers. I pray you and the doctors come up with the perfect game plan and that you get your little girl (or boy if that's a possibility) soon! <3

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  27. As devastating as the news about your babies and the potential chromosomal abnormality may be, at least you now have a first answer and are finally able to move forward. I trust that you two and your doctors find the right path for you. Hugs, my dear friend!!

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    1. Yes, answers were what we were seeking for sure.

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  28. Thank you so much for sharing your story and being so open and honest. I love that about your blog.

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    1. I appreciate that so much, thank you!

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  29. I'm so glad you were able to get some answers, still praying and sending hugs to you!

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  30. Wow that is so great that you are finally getting some answers and getting a clear plan. Praying for you!

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  31. I hope these test will show answers . xoxox

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  32. I am so glad to hear this news Jen! I am hopeful that you guys will get the answers you so desperately want and then you will be able to start down the next path!

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  33. SO glad questions have been answered, doctors listened and that there is a plan of action. I've been thinking about you since you mentioned the testing and am glad things are in a 'good' place to move forward. You and Kyle are so brave to share your story and I know it's helped people even if they haven't reached out to you. Prayers and love lady!

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  34. I am glad you have some sort of an idea, and can move forward with your plans. I hope the next steps go well for you!

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  35. I would be excited too! Sounds like nothing but promising!

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  36. I'm so glad that you have some answers and a plan!

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  37. Hugs! I am so happy for you two.

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  38. I think this sounds like good news- information is power, right? I am glad you have a plan and I am only wishing the best for you two!

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  39. such an uplifting post! sending positive vibes your way ... there's a plan!

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  40. I don't think it's TMI at all! I'm sure it's very valuable information to anyone trying to conceive. I'm glad y'all are getting some answers and new options! One step closer ;)

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