Kyle is coming up on 8 years in the Army and even though I have only been part of it for 7 I feel like I have more experience than I know what to do with.
I have learned:
*You have to be somewhat independent. There are times when your spouse is not around and you have to take the initiative and get stuff done. This can be anything from financial decisions to car maintenance.
*You cannot expect to get along with everyone. There will be people in this life that you come in contact with that you just do not click with. It happens but the great thing is you get to start over in new places.
*This life is exhausting...the moving, setting up a new house, finding a new dentist, meeting new people, etc. It doesn't really get easier you just get better at dealing with it.
*You WILL want a break from all things military and that's okay. Hopefully your spouse does not hold that against you since you are not the one who signed on the dotted line.
*When unexpected things happen do not flip out on your spouse, most likely they had no control over it either. This Army life can be crazy and getting upset does not really solve anything.
*You don't have to lose yourself in this life...you can still have a very strong sense of self and be productive.
*You will meet people that will not only be friends but they will become family. Do not let those friendships go even if a PCS happens.
*Find something that you enjoy, whether that be a sport, school, volunteering, or working. It is so important to have something to focus on when training and deployments happen.
*Don't always listen to the stereotypes! It doesn't matter if the person is married to a General or Private we are all looking for acceptance and friendship.
*This life gives you a new appreciation for your family, you take advantage of the time you get to spend together and you will cherish it all the more.
*Be grateful for the life that you are living, not everyone gets the opportunity to see the world and experience new things.
*Support and love each other no matter what!
I am not saying that this life is easy but there are ways to make it less stressful.
This guy makes it all worth it for me.
Have a great weekend!