Monday, February 22, 2016

You Are Not Alone

Since we found out we were expecting I have been asked a few times if my desire to help those struggling with infertility/pregnancy loss has gone away or if we are going to just forget about what we have gone through. More often than not this question catches me off guard because it could not be further from the truth. 

For the last 7 years infertility/pregnancy loss has been a huge part of our lives and it has been something that we have embraced because it was part of our journey and it made us who we are today. While I would not wish a journey like this on anyone it showed us just how strong we are and that anything is possible.

It is not something that goes away just because you are expecting, it makes you even more grateful for the gift that you have been given. Every day of this journey I think about the babies we lost and I think about this precious little one who is thriving and how we will explain to him/her one day how much we fought for them and how we did not give up.

I want to be an advocate for those who are going through this, I want to be a sounding board and listen to what they are going through and offer advice if they ask for it. I don't want to forget the journey that brought us to this moment. I still have fears because we are now in uncharted territory with this pregnancy but we are blessed and we know it.

We have several friends that are experiencing this right now and being there for them even if no words are spoken is so important to me. It can be difficult to talk to someone who has never been through something like this and I will forever be grateful to those who reached out to us and loved on us during our journey. It still means the world to us.

To those who are going through this, you are not alone. There is a support network that is always there for you, there are people cheering you on and loving you! 


21 comments:

  1. You are such an incredibly strong woman and a great inspiration to everyone. Thank you for sharing your journey, the ups and downs and the struggles. I know many women will look to your story for guidance. <3

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  2. What a sweet reminder for those that continue to struggle! You deserve all the happiness life has to offer :)

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  3. This is great. Thanks so much for this. Sometimes I wonder if people who go through it, forget it and go on because they finally have a little one. It stinks and is so hard to be happy for everyone having kids when you still can't! But life is what you make of it, so I will take my pugs and be happy. xoxo

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  4. You are such a great person, and your friends who are struggling are so lucky to have you.

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  5. You have a knack for addressing touch subjects in a very gentle way. It can't imagine that anyone who reads your blog isn't over the moon with excitement for you! You really deserve so much happiness after going through so much struggle.

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    1. Totally agree with Erica, love how you wrote and addressed what is always a difficult subject matter and speaks volumes on who you are as person, Jen! So thrilled for you and Kyle...!

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  6. What a fantastic post. I am sure those who are dealing with infertility appreciate it.

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    1. I just hope they know that they aren't alone. :)

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  7. This is a lovely post. Of course you haven't forgotten what you've been through just because you're pregnant now, however I'm sure its good for those who are still struggling to hear your words of encouragement.

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  8. This is wonderful Jen. You are amazing!

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  9. You are so strong and such an inspiration. I am blessed to call you a friend!

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  10. Jen, you are such an amazing person! I couldn't be happier for you and Kyle. It's fantastic that you are still able to help others with their difficult situations.

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  11. I am so surprised someone asks you that question. But so glad you guys are strong enough to help others and be a sounding board for them. Xoxo

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  12. Your journey brings hope for other people, nothing better than that! I am so happy for you guys.

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  13. You're amazing. I'm also surprised that someone asked you this question. We haven't had a healthy baby yet, but I know nothing will ever make me forget about that first baby we lost. I think it will just make the next pregnancy that much more special <3

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  14. You two are an amazing couple. I am always surprised about how many people I know who have experienced loss, but feel that they have no outlet for their pain. It is great that you will be there to help others who have been in the same position.

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Love hearing from you!! :)