Monday, August 10, 2015

The Next Step

It feels like we haven't had much going on lately but in reality we do. There are so many little things that are happening or that could happen. One thing I really haven't talked about lately is our fertility journey.

We found out a few weeks ago that Kyle does not have the genetic abnormality that the doctors thought he did. His tests actually came back completely normal as well. So we are two people with no genetic abnormalities but still struggle to get pregnant and to keep a pregnancy. Well the latter problem is apparently a fluke. We now know that it is imperative that Kyle has surgery to remove a varicose vein (really not trying to be TMI), the doctors have told us that it could increase fertility by upwards of 60%. 

Now here is the tricky part. From now until November Kyle will only have 20 days at home, the rest of the time is spent in the field training others. This does not make for an easy time to get to San Antonio for the surgery. We have decided to push it off until November/December when we know he will have some time to recoup for a few days. Every step we take I feel as though we are getting closer to our dream of having a baby and every day we are becoming more secure in different ways. 

We have been able to check things off our goals such as me graduating college and eliminating debt, etc. I do believe everything happens for a reason and at the right time (as much as it sucks to say it, I know that it is true). 

We will now move forward and use these next few months to prepare ourselves for the future and prepare for the possibility that IVF could be our last chance for a biological child. We are hoping though that this surgery could change everything for us. While we are grateful that a doctor has finally discovered this we are frustrated that it has taken this long.

Here is to the future! :) 


32 comments:

  1. I hope the surgery will work out! You deserve it.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Jen, you have such an optimistic and realistic attitude, and that's so incredible to read! It can be so frustrating having to plan things around the Army's time tables, but you guys are definitely looking at the timing of everything with a glass half full. Thank you for sharing and keeping us updated!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I appreciate it so much, Erica! The support means everything.

      Delete
  3. Thinking positive thoughts and sending prayers your way :)

    ReplyDelete
  4. Jen, I am honestly praying for you on this journey. Staying positive will definitely help, I love your attitude! And even though I know this is a personal journey I am so glad you are sharing it with us! xxoo

    ReplyDelete
  5. It's such a bummer to try to plan around the military. I'll be thinking of you two and praying the surgery goes well.

    ReplyDelete
  6. TONS of positive vibes being sent your way. Hoping for a successful surgery!

    ReplyDelete
  7. I'm so glad that you are getting answers and some hope! That stinks yall have to put the surgery off until later, but 60% sounds like a great number! Prayers for yall!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Doesn't it?! Thanks! We are so hopeful.

      Delete
  8. Praying for you!!! I understand the part about everything happening for a reason... I struggled for a long time wondering why I was still single, but I realize now that it was to prepare me to meet Andy. Obviously our paths couldn't cross while he was in Afghanistan last summer. I'm in a better place emotionally and debt-wise than if I had met Andy the year before.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I'm happy to hear you say that everything happens for a reason and at the right time because it's so true and also such a painful realization. I started doing a daily devotional and I'm working on accepting God's timing on all things. It's hard for me DAILY, but I know that we both can do it :) XOXO

    ReplyDelete
  10. I love your outlook on everything, it is just amazing. I know it must be know so hard to stay positive all the time, but you are doing pretty great at it. And finally some answers! I hope the time leading up to the surgery goes fast, and that all goes well after!! Hugs to you my friend :)

    ReplyDelete
  11. Well even though I am sure this has been such a tough road, at least you know Kyle's test came back good? Like everyone else said, you really do have such a positive 'tude! xoxo

    ReplyDelete
  12. I so happy you all have found out what is going on! Fingers crossed for you all!

    ReplyDelete
  13. I'm glad that you're getting answers and things seem to be moving in the right direction! Keeping you guys in my thoughts!!

    ReplyDelete
  14. Indeed, we have to carry on being patient and knowing/accepting that everything happens when its meant to. I need to remind myself that every day as well, I'm tired of being patient!! ;) But such good news that you two are healthy and fingers crossed it will happen soon :)

    ReplyDelete
  15. Thinking good thoughts for you guys going forward!

    ReplyDelete
  16. Oh gosh I hope that will bring this journey to an end for you! Praying for you guys!

    ReplyDelete
  17. Oh wow! It sounds like you have some very promising next steps! Thinking of you! :)

    ReplyDelete
  18. I continue to keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers! I'm glad that you have a plan... but the waiting game is never fun. Hang in there!

    ReplyDelete
  19. Praying for you all! Hope you can find the time for the surgery and it helps with everything. You are so strong and positive through it all!

    ReplyDelete
  20. It's almost bittersweet that the tests came back the way they did. Had they found something, you could work on trying to treat or correct it. Not finding anything just makes you wonder...why us? I'm happy to hear that you are still taking steps forward on a time table that makes sense for both of you, and I still have my fingers crossed that either the surgery or IVF will bring you that precious baby!

    ReplyDelete
  21. So good to hear that the surgery will improve your chances by so much! Sending positive vibes!!

    ReplyDelete
  22. Love love love and prayers prayers prayers. I am glad there are some answers and thing y'all are doing what is best for you! :)

    ReplyDelete
  23. Keeping you guys in my thoughts! I hope everything works out.

    ReplyDelete
  24. Aww <3 I hope the surgery is able to work out and makes a difference! I can't imagine the frustration, but it is nice to be getting everything in order financially now!

    ReplyDelete
  25. IVF just might be the ticket for the two of you after all. Hoping that the surgery is effective and not very painful for your hubs.

    ReplyDelete
  26. That is so exciting to have some answers and to have a plan! Praying so hard for yku guys! And like you've said everything happens for a reason and happens when it's supposed to! You have such a good attitude about it and I can't wait to see what the future holds for you guys!!

    ReplyDelete
  27. Things always seem to work out for the best in their own time, but it is SO hard being patient. You are making amazing strides toward the life you've dreamed of, even if it feels like it's going at a snail's pace. I'm so proud of you, friend!

    ReplyDelete

Love hearing from you!! :)