tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post881980425202758439..comments2024-01-01T05:08:21.320-05:00Comments on Marathons and Dog Tags: Always Be KindJenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-3768365697135599552017-01-02T21:05:11.648-05:002017-01-02T21:05:11.648-05:00I don't understand why people feel compelled t...I don't understand why people feel compelled to be so mean to people they'll never meet. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. Lisa Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17697383687935386178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-34440316469280945742016-12-28T19:07:00.146-05:002016-12-28T19:07:00.146-05:00I completely agree with you! That's what thos...I completely agree with you! That's what those sites are there for, to get help and ask questions. It's experiences like that, that make them not want to get involved with military events. Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06633862152372392695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-20124551493294136642016-12-19T23:41:25.093-05:002016-12-19T23:41:25.093-05:00I don't understand why people have to be so me...I don't understand why people have to be so mean. Either be nice or don't say anything at all. Hasn't anyone seen Bambi?Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04907568994378362042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-69933584646734325892016-12-19T18:58:22.239-05:002016-12-19T18:58:22.239-05:00You're right and it makes me sad.You're right and it makes me sad.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-45100131431482129372016-12-19T18:58:01.112-05:002016-12-19T18:58:01.112-05:00They really don't!They really don't!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-14807805018855951362016-12-19T18:57:52.786-05:002016-12-19T18:57:52.786-05:00Right?! There is nothing more amazing than human d...Right?! There is nothing more amazing than human decency and treating people with respect.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-56142445558099076222016-12-19T18:56:50.303-05:002016-12-19T18:56:50.303-05:00It's a ridiculous term that got started a few ...It's a ridiculous term that got started a few years ago, this is the definition I found, "A person who is married to someone in the service who doesn't just depend on their spouse for financial support, but pretty much relies on them for it. They start out all cute and All-American until after the wedding, then it's like cookies, couch and coach purses. Arguing with other dependas over Facebook all day over who's the bigger dependa. They're generally not educated and have no goals or aspirations in life. They live their lives through their husband's successes and think they rank and are better than "civilians" when they themselves are in face...still civilians." It's disgusting and people use it in derogatory ways.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-14235124131338643502016-12-19T18:55:57.292-05:002016-12-19T18:55:57.292-05:00It's ridiculous! Like you said there is no way...It's ridiculous! Like you said there is no way that someone would say those type of things to someones face. Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-37652951714329655642016-12-19T18:55:27.863-05:002016-12-19T18:55:27.863-05:00I agree about having a thick skin but gosh some of...I agree about having a thick skin but gosh some of the things that are said are just wrong.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01092211937888152360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-46413776766653485362016-12-17T16:00:54.175-05:002016-12-17T16:00:54.175-05:00Yeah it's everywhere on social media. It is a ...Yeah it's everywhere on social media. It is a part of the culture. The slang terms don't really bother me because haha it's better than "you effing bit*h" or "lawyer scum" or you know, "eff you"....which was pretty on the daily in the legal business. You gotta have a thick skin nowadays. It's tough out there on those Twitter/FB/Insta streets!! Samantha https://www.blogger.com/profile/08996652283171370224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-4692308035405946012016-12-17T14:26:51.887-05:002016-12-17T14:26:51.887-05:00People can be so kind. It's strange, in the co...People can be so kind. It's strange, in the communities you'd think would be most supportive you often get some really bad offenders. I'm not part of the military community so I can't comment (I also don't know what a dependa is?) but I completely agree, kindness is free and painless so why not??Rachel ¦¦ A Nesting Nomadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08457683109401016555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-2068251893406736802016-12-16T22:40:00.856-05:002016-12-16T22:40:00.856-05:00Girl, I have seen the same. One girl got ripped t...Girl, I have seen the same. One girl got ripped to shreds because of one question she asked. I couldn't believe the way some people reacted. Military life is hard and it's especially hard when your new (like myself) and don't know how things work. For the most part, the FB page I'm a member of is really helpful, but sometimes I see people being extremely and unnecessarily nasty. I wish that people could just leave well enough alone if they don't have anything nice to say. Jenn @ Lost in the Right Directionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17739295507898824699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-4055690059355581772016-12-16T15:15:35.249-05:002016-12-16T15:15:35.249-05:00Social media has done some good things for society...Social media has done some good things for society, but it really has made it a lot easier for people to just sit behind a computer and be downright nasty to each other. I've heard that the military spouse network is such a wonderful support system, and it's sad that there are people being so nasty! Ashley Lillishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07780724561089709501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-51226627145879655662016-12-16T14:13:41.574-05:002016-12-16T14:13:41.574-05:00My brother in-law is a cop, and my sister is in a ...My brother in-law is a cop, and my sister is in a few groups for wives of law enforcement, and some of the nasty things people type, that she shows me...I feel so bad for the one asking questions, or who are new to that life. It shouldn't be like that for anyone, anywhere. You're right - always be kind.Nichole @ casadecrews.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965329389850039573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-30224248809545055962016-12-16T13:21:51.181-05:002016-12-16T13:21:51.181-05:00It makes me sad too. Sometimes I hate asking quest...It makes me sad too. Sometimes I hate asking questions on the FB group for wives here because I'm always afraid that I'm going to get judged by everyone.Baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04982156216874612973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-89093038805254185032016-12-16T12:48:38.291-05:002016-12-16T12:48:38.291-05:00Amen!Amen!Erica @ Whimsical Septemberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02487144632630680991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-52775880303501925422016-12-16T11:54:30.197-05:002016-12-16T11:54:30.197-05:00Completely agree, and I've seen it in other gr...Completely agree, and I've seen it in other groups as well, especially parenting groups! There's been a handful of instances, but the most recent was when I asked a few questions when I was weaning Savannah from breastfeeding (she was 4.5 months at this time) and got ripped a new one. That was the last straw for me. I'm still a part of these groups, but I rarely interact although I will skim them from time to time to hopefully learn something new or search within the group to see if a question I have has already been answered. I feel like people feel so empowered to be assholes because they can hide behind a computer/phone screen and it's ridiculous. I'd like to see these women say the crap they do to someone's face, haha. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623454070824689089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-6931155674705320122016-12-16T11:52:16.054-05:002016-12-16T11:52:16.054-05:00What does "dependa" mean? I've been ...What does "dependa" mean? I've been a military spouse for 13 years and have never heard the term (dependents, yes). I'm not on Facebook, so maybe that is why. It is a shame to see people tear each other down instead of band together. I have always loved being a part of such an amazing community.alisonroyturnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17069750949212215623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-44310194279861278362016-12-16T11:07:27.902-05:002016-12-16T11:07:27.902-05:00Great reminder. We do not have enough kindness in...Great reminder. We do not have enough kindness in this world!Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03331615511067156438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-45970101494681456872016-12-16T11:07:14.500-05:002016-12-16T11:07:14.500-05:00It breaks my heart that we have to tell people to ...It breaks my heart that we have to tell people to be kind and to treat each other like we would want to be treated... I grew up in a military household and I saw some adults that behaved rudely or like "mean girls," but this was before the advent of social media, which I'm sure has been a double-edged sword... Its amazing how much better you feel and they feel when you just practice basic human decency and kindness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-80691831088877345292016-12-16T10:40:45.961-05:002016-12-16T10:40:45.961-05:00I try to remind myself this a lot. Positive vibes ...I try to remind myself this a lot. Positive vibes never hurtAdamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08051255914419363819noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-47010709948541799902016-12-16T09:12:15.650-05:002016-12-16T09:12:15.650-05:00Be nice or be quiet! I never got involved for this...Be nice or be quiet! I never got involved for this exact reason - I don't have time or energy for drama. Kaithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16014247927131379688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-76047648669097370992016-12-16T08:43:28.622-05:002016-12-16T08:43:28.622-05:00Great reminder! I feel like the negativity is ever...Great reminder! I feel like the negativity is everywhere, but sad that is it compounded with milspouses. Reason number 138 I steer clear, and I don't have a personal Facebook page! But like you said, just be nice or don't say anything. KelseyBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06365843782648837158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-59630364890801471282016-12-16T07:29:02.035-05:002016-12-16T07:29:02.035-05:00I think the military community in itself has chang...I think the military community in itself has changed, to be honest. 7+ years ago, it was different than it is now.<br />Like with this base in particular, I don't feel a ton of support, but I did at our other two bases. I think it sometimes depends on where the location is. <br />But I always think about the wives who welcomed me, so I try to show that kind of example to others. Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12075708535155080258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4312430632143777189.post-81899169141550438372016-12-16T06:16:05.990-05:002016-12-16T06:16:05.990-05:00Unfortunately, that happens all the time, everywhe...Unfortunately, that happens all the time, everywhere! I can only imagine what this world would be like without the negativity and judging. <br /><br />Always be kind! Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com