Monday, October 10, 2016

October Is Important

In 1988, President Ronald Reagan proclaimed that the month of October would be National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month saying this:

"When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn't a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes." 
Too often this type of loss is not talked about, some suffer in silence wondering why they have to endure such tremendous pain. It is important to advocate for those who are struggling with this type of loss and to show them that they are not alone and that they are loved.

When Kyle and I experienced our first loss in 2009 we did not know how to deal with it, with each loss after that we learned ways to get through it even though the pain did not go away. Talking about our journey and educating others has been incredibly therapeutic. There are also many events to participate in that can help, we will be doing a walk on the 22nd to bring awareness.

As I sit here and look at our precious miracle, Emersyn, I wonder how our life would be different had we not experienced these losses. I wonder if we would be the same people we are now had we not endured all we did. We have been forever changed by the five precious lives that we never got to see on this earth and I chose to honor them forever with this tattoo, there are five hearts representing our babies who never got to know how much we love them and wanted them.


We are beyond grateful for our daughter and as she gets older we want her to know the journey we experienced, to know that these babies (her siblings) were so wanted as was she, we want to be honest with her so that she will understand how loss like this happens far more than people think. 

To all those who have experienced this unspeakable loss, we remember your babies, and we will light a candle in their honor. 

Please consider lighting a candle at 7pm on October 15th which has been designated as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Wareness Day to remember all those precious babies that have been lost. 


20 comments:

  1. You have great strength. Something that anyone would be proud to pass on.

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  2. You are so strong and brave to bring awareness to this!!

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  3. I'm so happy you have Emersyn! She won't make the pain of losing your 5 away but hopefully she can make it a little easier. I look at Mac every day and I'm so glad he's with us. I still wonder what our other baby would have been like but I'm still happy Mac is with us.

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  4. I look up to the both of you for how strong you have been through your journey. XOXO

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  5. You have been such an important voice for this subject. It has opened my eyes and heart. I know you have touched many in a positive way.

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  6. I am so glad you have your little miracle finally, I cannot imagine going through that. Thank you for sharing!

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  7. I can't even imagine the pain you experience when you lose a child! Emersyn really is such a blessing, and I think that it's wonderful that you're going to tell her all about her siblings.

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  8. Thanks for sharing your heart of loss with your friends and others who have experienced this loss. So thankful that Emersyn is there now for you to love and share the story when she gets older. I can only imagine what you've gone through and live to share it well! Kudos to you and God bless you and Kyle! Hugs!

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  9. I lost a nephew to stillbirth earlier this year. That was much harder than I ever expected. Obviously my brother's wife is not the same person. She didn't attend a family birthday party the other day because she can't handle being around babies

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    1. I am so sorry! That breaks my heart.

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  10. I'm so happy that Emmersyn made it to this world - she is blessed to have you as her parents! And for all the other little ones that didn't make it, I will think of them on the 15th.. xx

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  11. I'm so sorry for your losses. You two are amazing, Emersyn is lucky to have you. Thanks for raising awareness for this often silent issue, I'll be joining in the 7pm GMT wave and lighting a candle for you :)

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  12. Thank you for talking about this issue. I'm so glad you have Emersyn! I'm so sorry for your losses.

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    1. It's so important to talk about!

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